Friday, December 14, 2012

On the Heels of a Tragic Day, Pieces of Happy: Learning and Creating

Today, learning is helping me have some peace of mind on a horrifically chaotic and tragic day. How can an elementary school shooting happen? I don’t know. The Onion http://www.theonion.com/articles/fuck-everything-nation-reports,30743/ actually made me cry today with how completely it summed up my feelings.

Oddly enough, yesterday I concluded that I needed to research violent tendencies in male youth, to implement some new approaches with clients at work. We don’t know a lot about the Connecticut school shooter yet, so I am not going to assume all the research I did tonight could pertain to him. But I felt reassured at the wealth of information out there and early prevention strategies available. I wish we would shift as a country towards mental health intervention at the slightest sign of maladaptive tendencies in a person and towards prevention through cultivating coping skills and providing resources.

I don’t understand the stigma around care for mental health. We have all had maladaptive tendencies at some point, just like we’ve all had the flu or chicken pox. Sometimes we all need a doctor, acupuncturist, curandera, or specialist to cure our physical ailments. Sometimes we all need a therapeutic intervention which suits our personality to cure our mental ailments. We’re people. We fluctuate. We’re not always okay physically or mentally. One of my friends says, “We all have our crazy.”

The school shooting today made me antsy with desire to do something…anything. Small as it might be, I feel more inspired to continue seeking, researching, and over time, creating more interventions for at-risk youth. More prevention efforts must be devoted to violence and aggression. Unchecked, their reach can be even more exponential and devastating than a highly contagious physical illness, as today has demonstrated.

I say all this because I know a lot of people want to do something in the wake of this tragedy. Dissonant as we are, maybe a collective piece of our happy is creating a kinder world, however each of us see that. Instead of getting unproductively angry, we can all channel our energy into positive solutions we are passionate about, to prevent future tragedies.

Sunday, November 11, 2012

The Restless Cacophony and Our Pieces of Happy


Restless cacophony, you say? Is that just a failed attempt at poetic phrasing, or does it have a point? I have an attempt at a point. I think we are universally cacophonous together, and we move hastily in different directions, culturally clashing and creating an appearance of constant restlessness.  

So really, this restless cacophony is how I think aliens view us from space: individuals without many common goals, buzzing about, creating a hive of busy noise and clamor to achieve something in this world.

Synonyms of cacophony: discordant, dissonant, harsh-sounding, inharmonious.

The dissonance is so beautiful, right? We are all so different. We live in such a culturally rich world. It’s complex and intricate and multi-faceted. Just when we think we are getting the hang of it, we learn another layer. But all creatures and life and nature are connected too.

What I’m saying is this: I would argue that this cacophony has a melody, a cohesion that makes sense, even if it is hard to find. Most of these whirring individuals, creatures, and elements spin in an attempt to survive and thrive. And most people desire happiness, to make the surviving and thriving more enjoyable.

Is there a way to create universal happiness? Well, no. But there is a way to celebrate the happiness in others while pursuing one’s own. Jack Kornfield calls it spacious clarity. “In spaciousness and clarity, we can understand that every one of us participates in the loss and suffering of life, as well as its marvels and beauty. This awakens our compassion instead of judgment and denial.”

So this blog is going to be an exploration of that spacious clarity, that hidden melody, those pieces of happy that comprise our cacophonous world, with all its beautiful intricacy and dissonance. Enjoy!